SUICIDE — GIVING LIFE ANOTHER CHANCE

Give life another chance. You may be reading this article because you are contemplating killing yourself. Or perhaps you know someone who is.

If you are that person who has lost hope for your life, please read on. Let me talk to you personally. I realize that you may have already planned to end your life or even tried to. All you can think about is how hopeless your life is, how you can’t go on living like this. The pain is too great. No one understands the burdens you carry or the emotional turmoil you are experiencing.

But, you are here now and because you are, let me share with you some hope about how your life can be different, and about why you should give life another try.

Options: I want to ask you to consider doing something other than trying to end your life. You may have tried counselling or talking to someone to no avail. I’m asking you to try taking some steps again, steps which will help you move in another direction, away from the self-destructive thoughts which have plagued you.

FIRST OF ALL, YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHY YOU ARE DEPRESSED.

You may say, “I do know why. I am a failure. I’m in debt. My wife/husband left me. Someone died. I’m unemployed. I’m lonely. I want to tell you that though you have many problems and struggles, most likely you are also struggling with a physical deficiency of chemicals in your nervous system. This may be a major reason for the depression you feel.

Many people who are depressed don’t know that depression is also caused by a deficiency of neurochemicals. A recent article from the world renowned Mayo Clinic stated that “experts believe a genetic vulnerability combined with environmental factors, such as stress or physical illness, may trigger an imbalance in brain chemicals called neurotransmitters, resulting in depression. Imbalances in three neurotransmitters – serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine – seem to be linked to depression.”

These chemicals help people concentrate, improve mood, and increase energy. Medication, along with natural methods such as exercise and taking time to grow spiritually, can help increase these neurochemicals. You still need to work through other issues such as the loss of a loved one through death or divorce, low self-esteem, guilt, resentment, anger, or past sexual abuse. Those crises and losses need to be dealt with, processed, and grieved.

Have you been going to counselling and been treated for depression? If not, go immediately to your family doctor who will be able to refer you to a counsellor. If you are presently in counselling, you need to contact your therapist and/or psychiatrist to tell them you need help for these suicidal thoughts and self-destructive plans. Ask a family member or friend to go with you.

UNDERSTANDING DEPRESSION AND CHALLENGING YOUR EMOTIONS

Your feelings and your depression cannot be trusted. Feelings are not objective truth. Feelings are indicators of subjective thinking and you need to explore the thoughts you have been dwelling on that have led you to contemplate suicide.

Thinking about killing yourself is believing lies about life and about the future. Many people in the past have struggled with depression but, they didn’t cave into or trust the feelings. They had the courage to go on, the courage to believe that their future and that their life could be different. They rejected the despairing thoughts and moved forward. They were able to overcome hurdles and their emotions of defeat. You don’t need to be led astray by your negative feelings and thoughts either.

It’s time to challenge that thinking. Time to see your life from a healthy perspective. You are a person of value. You are important and you can change your thinking and behaviour and improve your life.

ASK YOURSELF

  • What feelings are underneath my depression?
  • Do I suffer from low self-esteem?
  • Am I having guilt problems?
  • Am I struggling with relationship problems?
  • Am I fearful about something?
  • Am I struggling with some loss?
  • What types of thoughts rule my mind?

 

MOVING BEYOND HOPELESSNESS

Usually people who are feeling depressed are not doing what would help them feel better. You need to fight the depression and move forward. Talk with someone about your feelings, about your life. Expressing your feelings to someone is very beneficial. Exploring with someone, especially a counsellor, what underlies your feelings can help you begin to problem-solve.

Seeing your doctor for a physical exam and telling him or her about your depression can lead to further treatment for the physiological causes. You most likely need to take an antidepressant. Regular exercise and proper diet is very helpful and can also increase the neurochemicals your body is missing. Spending quality time with caring people, friends, God, members of your family and church will give you a sense of connection and help you regain meaning in your life.

WHERE TO START

You have read this article. Will you now consider taking a step towards life? A step towards rebuilding your life? A step to reach out for help? Refuse to believe the lies you have been telling yourself. Lies that life is hopeless, you are worthless and you have no future.

I’m here to tell you that your life has a future and a hope. I have seen so many people get help and go on to enjoy a better life!

Write out a list of what will help you start over. Here are some suggestions:

1.Professional counselling: LIFELINE SA (LLSA) – WEST RAND

EMOTIONAL & CRISIS COUNSELLING SERVICES

Physical address

CNR 25 BOSHOFF & COMMISIONER STREET, KRUGERSDORP, 1739

Telephone

(011) 953-4111 / (011) 665-2281

  1. A physical exam and medication:

Your GP OR KRUGERSDORP CENTRAL CLINIC

Contact Details

+27 11 660 7772

Trading Hours

Monday-Friday (07:30 – 18:00)

Physical Address

Corner of Fountain and Commissioner Streets, Krugersdorp, Gauteng, 1739

3.Exercise: Your local Gym/ running Club

 

4.Guidance for finances

Gauteng Debt Counselling

Phone

087 056 0654

 

5.Working through grief or loss

Reading a book such as: The Freedom from Depression Workbook by Les Carter, Frank Minirth; The Search for Significance by Robert McGee; Learning to Tell Myself the Truth by William Backus; or Keep Believing: God in the Midst of Our Deepest Struggles by Ray Pritchard.

 

6.Family support organization

6.Tel: (011) 975 7106/7
Fax: (011) 975 7108 / 086 641 6882
Email: national@famsa.org.za

I hope that I have been able to talk to you out of harming yourself. Please contact your pastor, counsellor, a friend, your doctor. You are also welcome to contact me at school and I can assist you with a referral to the help you need.

Take a step towards life and hope now.

Cherie Lira

KHS -Social worker